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WERE YOU TAUGHT TO SUPPRESS YOUR TEARS?

Wed, Dec 12, 2012 at 1:10 AM

When you were younger....we're you taught to suppress your tears? Just to hold them in?
I was told never to cry, that crying was "wrong" Everytime I would cry my parents would get mad at me and the situation would just get a whole lot worse...now even though I cry, it feels like the tears never stop...I know I never should've suppressed my tears...but its not my fault,,,coz when your young you listen to what your elders say :(
And I was scared of the situation getting worse...Coz they told me to not cry or else they would get angrier...

Now it's more horrible than ever
It's harder to cope with pain now
What do I do?

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    Wed, Dec 12, 2012 at 1:23 AM

    I personally think that's wrong. Parents shouldn't do that to their children. Crying is a healthy and natural release of emotion and in the long run, and I'm talking years later like in their teen years, it could lead to them figuring out other ways to "deal with" pain, like self-harming. Not that that deals with pain but you know what I mean.
    Now if you don't feel comfortable with this, it's fine but do you mind me asking how old you are? Just so I get a better idea and so I can think of things you can do that will be relevant to the age you are. If you don't want to post it here, you can PM me :) xx

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    Re: WERE YOU TAUGHT TO SUPPRESS YOUR TEARS?

    Wed, Dec 12, 2012 at 1:30 AM

    That's awful :( I'm so sorry!

    STOP BULLYING


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    Re: WERE YOU TAUGHT TO SUPPRESS YOUR TEARS?

    Wed, Dec 12, 2012 at 2:16 AM

    Okay, so I would always cry, too, the end.

    But I think your parents are wrong. Parents should know what their children want the best, and one of them is crying. Crying is a part of life, and everybody should know what it feels to cry. So why not cry?

    Crying is a way to let all of your sad feelings out, so if you suppress your tears, you'll probably go crazy and don't know what to do in a difficult situation and panic and stuff. So, let your parents know that you should cry, too. I don't know how, though. I'm not so sure. But knowing parents, they'll (surely) someday let you cry once in a while.:) I mean, they're your parents, right? :)


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    Re: WERE YOU TAUGHT TO SUPPRESS YOUR TEARS?

    Wed, Dec 12, 2012 at 2:34 AM

    I think crying is good, personally. It lets out emotions, crying helps.



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    Wed, Dec 12, 2012 at 4:00 AM

    Crying is good. It's how you release your emotion. Honestly, it's hard for me to go a day without crying, for random reasons, and you should know that when you need to cry, CRY.




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    Re: WERE YOU TAUGHT TO SUPPRESS YOUR TEARS?

    Wed, Dec 12, 2012 at 4:07 AM

    crying at certain times is good...it helps us to release whatever goes inside us..and makes a little refresh and we feel better... i cry a lot to make me feel free from some bad situation i am going through and makes me a little happy too!!! its not a bad thing its just a natural process for all of us!
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    Re: WERE YOU TAUGHT TO SUPPRESS YOUR TEARS?

    Wed, Dec 12, 2012 at 4:30 AM

    OneThingMissing wrote:
    Honestly, it's hard for me to go a day without crying.



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    Re: WERE YOU TAUGHT TO SUPPRESS YOUR TEARS?

    Wed, Dec 12, 2012 at 6:16 AM

    My dad used to get annoyed and be like "why are you crying? You're not hurt" and that was frustrating for me, like he didn't understand.

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    Wed, Dec 12, 2012 at 4:58 PM

    Clueless wrote:
    My dad used to get annoyed and be like "why are you crying? You're not hurt" and that was frustrating for me, like he didn't understand.


    Aww xox I can relate :)

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    Wed, Dec 12, 2012 at 5:00 PM

    ForeverEnchanted13 wrote:
    I personally think that's wrong. Parents shouldn't do that to their children. Crying is a healthy and natural release of emotion and in the long run, and I'm talking years later like in their teen years, it could lead to them figuring out other ways to "deal with" pain, like self-harming. Not that that deals with pain but you know what I mean.
    Now if you don't feel comfortable with this, it's fine but do you mind me asking how old you are? Just so I get a better idea and so I can think of things you can do that will be relevant to the age you are. If you don't want to post it here, you can PM me :) xx


    Aww thank you for your advice :) xox it's really helpful :) xox I agree with you x

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    Wed, Dec 12, 2012 at 5:01 PM

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    crying at certain times is good...it helps us to release whatever goes inside us..and makes a little refresh and we feel better... i cry a lot to make me feel free from some bad situation i am going through and makes me a little happy too!!! its not a bad thing its just a natural process for all of us!
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    Thank you for your advice! :) xox I will try to cry more, to feel better about the situation :) xox I agree with how you say it's a natural process :)

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    Wed, Dec 12, 2012 at 5:02 PM

    OneThingMissing wrote:
    Crying is good. It's how you release your emotion. Honestly, it's hard for me to go a day without crying, for random reasons, and you should know that when you need to cry, CRY.



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    I think crying is good, personally. It lets out emotions, crying helps.



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    Wed, Dec 12, 2012 at 5:03 PM

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    That's awful :( I'm so sorry!

    STOP BULLYING


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    Wed, Dec 12, 2012 at 5:05 PM

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    Okay, so I would always cry, too, the end.

    But I think your parents are wrong. Parents should know what their children want the best, and one of them is crying. Crying is a part of life, and everybody should know what it feels to cry. So why not cry?

    Crying is a way to let all of your sad feelings out, so if you suppress your tears, you'll probably go crazy and don't know what to do in a difficult situation and panic and stuff. So, let your parents know that you should cry, too. I don't know how, though. I'm not so sure. But knowing parents, they'll (surely) someday let you cry once in a while.:) I mean, they're your parents, right? :)

    Thank you xox I agree with you :)


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    Re: WERE YOU TAUGHT TO SUPPRESS YOUR TEARS?

    Thu, Dec 13, 2012 at 4:00 AM

    I don't think you can teach someone to do that. I'm 17 and I cry about the smallest silliest things. You either have it in you or you don't. That doesn't mean I'm not strong. I'm one of the strongest people I know, considering what I've been through. Tears sometimes make things better than suppresing your feelings and bottling them up :)

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