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PEOPLE SAYING HURTFUL THINGS?

Mon, Dec 10, 2012 at 9:54 PM

I hate when people misunderstand you...or all you ever are is nice to them and then they're so mean to you...but mostly I hate how people talk behind your backs...I thought I was okay with 2 of my friends and then i heard them talking behind my back! They were talking about how I was "weird" and they wouldn't be "friends with me" if I hadn't been so "nice" to them,..what's that supposed to mean anyway? I feel so hurt and betrayed, I confronted them about this today and they flat out denied it but I HEARD THEM :( :( I feel like crying but I just feel empty and hurt...I don't think I'll ever find true friends...

Also I can't be myself around my friends...so I have to be someone different...and I know that people say it's better to be by yourself than in bad company....but I really don't want to be alone :( but at the same time I can't be myself I feel this pressure to act how they want me to act ....this is so long, I'm so sorry, thank you so much for reading it though! Xx

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    Re: PEOPLE SAYING HURTFUL THINGS?

    Tue, Dec 11, 2012 at 12:33 AM

    The Buddha once said :

    If a man find a prudent companion who walks with him, is wise, and lives soberly, he may walk with him, overcoming all dangers, happy, but considerate.

    If a man find no prudent companion who walks with him, is wise, and lives soberly, let him walk alone, like a king who has left his conquered country behind, like an elephant in the forest.

    It is better to live alone, there is no companionship with a fool; let a man walk alone, let him commit no sin, with few wishes, like an elephant in the forest.

    ( Dhammapada 328, 329, 330 )

    It's true that, better to be alone than make a friendship with insincere and evil friend. :)

    But if you don't want to be alone, than you can always look for a new friends.

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    Re: PEOPLE SAYING HURTFUL THINGS?

    Tue, Dec 11, 2012 at 7:18 AM

    They sound like awful friends! I'd definitely rather be alone than around people like that. *Big hug* are there any clubs you can join at school? I had friends similar to that and it became clear to me that I was just there to boost their ego - they didn't really like me, but they liked me hanging onto their every word. So I joined a bunch of clubs so I was busy every lunchtime and I found new friends to hang around with who liked me for being me.

    It's not a fun time but you'll get through this. And if you have a bad day us Swifties are here to listen to your venting :)

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    Re: PEOPLE SAYING HURTFUL THINGS?

    Tue, Dec 11, 2012 at 8:35 AM

    Always be yourself no matter what! I know how you feel :(, I was in the popular group, but I had to be different around them and I didn't like it, so I decided to be myself and i'm so glad I did :)! And if they're gonna be like that, forget about them! I'm sure loads of people want to be your friend :)!
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    Re: PEOPLE SAYING HURTFUL THINGS?

    Tue, Dec 11, 2012 at 10:50 AM

    Clueless wrote:
    They sound like awful friends! I'd definitely rather be alone than around people like that. *Big hug* are there any clubs you can join at school? I had friends similar to that and it became clear to me that I was just there to boost their ego - they didn't really like me, but they liked me hanging onto their every word. So I joined a bunch of clubs so I was busy every lunchtime and I found new friends to hang around with who liked me for being me.

    It's not a fun time but you'll get through this. And if you have a bad day us Swifties are here to listen to your venting :)




    Aww thank you for your advice :) xox I can totally relate to you when you say they didn't really like you but they liked you hanging onto their every word,,.thats how I feel about this situation too!

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    Re: PEOPLE SAYING HURTFUL THINGS?

    Tue, Dec 11, 2012 at 11:06 AM

    Kerta wrote:
    The Buddha once said :

    If a man find a prudent companion who walks with him, is wise, and lives soberly, he may walk with him, overcoming all dangers, happy, but considerate.

    If a man find no prudent companion who walks with him, is wise, and lives soberly, let him walk alone, like a king who has left his conquered country behind, like an elephant in the forest.

    It is better to live alone, there is no companionship with a fool; let a man walk alone, let him commit no sin,
    with few wishes, like an elephant in the forest

    ( Dhammapada 328, 329, 330 )

    It's true that, better to be alone than make a friendship with insincere and evil friend. :)

    But if you don't want to be alone, than you can always look for a new friends.


    Thank you! That's a wonderful quote! :) I love it xo

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    Re: PEOPLE SAYING HURTFUL THINGS?

    Tue, Dec 11, 2012 at 11:08 AM

    Irish_fanxo wrote:
    Always be yourself no matter what! I know how you feel :(, I was in the popular group, but I had to be different around them and I didn't like it, so I decided to be myself and i'm so glad I did :)! And if they're gonna be like that, forget about them! I'm sure loads of people want to be your friend :)!
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    Thank you for your advice- its so encouraging :) xo

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    Re: PEOPLE SAYING HURTFUL THINGS?

    Tue, Dec 11, 2012 at 11:11 AM

    I'll be your friend!